We all have ideas about fatherhood, but I think it was Mike Tyson that once said “Everyone has plan until they get punched in the mouth.” If you’re a dad, I bet you know what I’m talking about. This is a blog about the daring adventure of fatherhood and navigating the waters of an experience that is unique to each of us, yet connects us to one another in profound ways.
It’s not about answers or the right or wrong ways to be a dad. In fact you don’t even need to be a dad to find a connection here. It’s about building a community through shared stories, and a common desire to see our families (and ourselves) thrive.
I dislike that family life is often referred to as “settling down” because there is nothing settling about it. In fact, it might be just the opposite.
Love is war.
Waking up and choosing to engage takes everything you’ve got and more. I’ve had a lot of days recently where I just feel so unworthy of it. Luckily, my little unit is there to pick me back up, brush me off, and help me move forward again.
disclaimer: I’m going to change.
I’m the father of two and am growing a family with my wife in Sacramento, CA. A few things about me that will give you insight into the themes that will come out in this blog:
- I’m a former pastor and “ex-vangelical.” I typically describe myself as one of the spiritually homeless and frustrated of the world. Read more about that here.
- My wife and I own a salon here in the heart of Sacramento’s Midtown neighborhood. While I’m not from Sacramento originally, I care deeply about it and long for the communities here to thrive. It is an incredible time to live in such a place and we are grateful for the people here who help shape our lives.
- I’m one of the 600,000 people in the US who suffer from Meniere’s Disease. It impacts almost every day of my life and is something I hope to help bring more awareness to.
- While Samantha I are blessed to have two healthy children, we also lost two in the womb and understand the pain and heartache that accompany miscarriage – something I hope to share more about on the blog.
- Seeing a therapist got me through the worst seasons of my life and has helped sustain me. I’m a hug fan of the process and am committed to always supporting my my ideas on this blog through the lenses of psychology and other related sciences.
- A big part of my journey is the deconstruction of my privilege and raising my children with self-awareness and discernment when it comes to issues of equality, equity, and our contribution to systems that impact the lives of people.
Other than that we love cuddles, rainy days, dance parties, San Francisco Giants, and wine.
Lots of wine.
Thanks for coming along with the ride.